Well I'm glad you found your someone even if you didn't officiate it. I would like to say, particularly for anyone reading that is soon betrothed to their beloved in a similar situation, is it doesn't matter from whose side they come as long as the folks there love you. They're your new family! My husbands family have treated me like their own from day 1. So don't worry, if your difficult parent(s) is there, let your new mother or father in law annoy the snot out of them!