My Horrid Parent

Hi, I'm new here. 

My mother is so fake in public it's insane. Everyone LOVES her and no one knows her or how she treats children.

I've had 2 weddings. My first was a ridiculous affair my mother tried to make all about her and her ex relationship with my biological father.  The whole day was about how horrid and stingy he was and how much she does for me blah blah blah.  The day was actually pretty ruined by her honestly. I was stressed out and constantly running to do whatever it was she suddenly felt like I needed to be doing.

My second wedding, once I got away from my creepy first husband, was much better.  My husband is a wonderful, stable, amazing guy who understands and loves how weird I am. He had a relatively healthy family growing up and doesn't understand what it was like having toxic parents or why it still plagues me, but he's spent enough time with my mother to see that she is a freaking fruitcake and a bad person.  Our wedding was lovely and at the reception my mother kept trying to get me to help with the food and clean up and such and I had come a long way in the years between weddings, I told her NO. Do it or don't do it, everyone is free to help or not help today.  Once it was over I did clean and load up vehicles and all of that but during the reception? That was our party on our special day of celebration. She was unable to ruin it.