My Horrid Parent

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How brave you have been to take a stand with your toxic family, and what a shame they have put you through further pain by stalking you online. Going to the police and getting their support is a big step and takes courage - so well done. It is terrific that your husband has helped and protected you so that you get the care you deserve. I do hope that you will be left in peace to get on with your life.

Best - Alyson

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Hi all my story is somewhat different to most as both my parents had their own issues. Firstly my dad would take my money off me and say I will pay you back when I get paid. Being only 12 years at the time I did not have enough courage to say no. I worked all day Saturday and Sunday cleaning out a friends pigeon lofts. It was 1976 and I was pleased with myself. I rode home and was surprised my dad was standing waiting for me. He praised me for doing all that hard work. I felt great but then he took the money and went off down to the pub to spend it. This happened to me many many times throughout my childhood. I left home at 16 and had a week in hand wages to pick up but I was 200 miles away so asked my mother to pick it up. The next time I saw them my dad had picked it up and guess what I never saw any of it. He was not all bad but weak and he spoilt my childhood with what he did.
My mother was a different kettle of fish and still is. I am the 2nd son of 5 boys. She has described me as a black sheep and at every opportunity puts me down. It used to be the joke within my family. She is so negative at anything I do or try to do. I went back to live with them for about 3 years in 1988 until I got out again. She used to blackmail me into paying the phone bill which I had installed under my name. She was always ringing her sisters in Birmingham and blamed me for the high bill. I used to argue but had no choice but to pay it. When I moved out into our new home which was a big mortgage. She wanted mu board for a week I never stayed there as she believed it was a week in hand but I argued that it was paid the night I moved back in. she never had the money. then she wanted me to replace the line pole my dad had knocked down. Luckily I had one at my new place which I dropped off.
This story could go on and on. My new wife and I are very generous so took her and my brothers and partners out for lunch one day. Little did I realise it was her birthday that day. she always forgot my birthday or would get me something second hand like a pair of ladies jeans as a present. Anyhow I quickly realised my error so wished her a happy birthday. We paid the lunch bill and thought nothing else of it. However the story got twisted by my mother which she told everyone was I had forgotten her birthday and we all went out for lunch which she had paid for!! once I got to know what she was saying I challenged her and she was adamant she had paid for her birthday dinner the one we forgot!
We always have barbecues and tea lunches at Christmas time spending quite a bit of money on the spreads etc which my family are always invited too.
Imagine our surprise when after eating their fill at our house they all went out to eat at a pub but failed to ask us because they did not think we would be interested in going. Hurt is not the result but devastated by being left out. Also we were not invited to a barbecue!!
Now this sounds bad indeed but my mother has spread silly stories about us for not going over to see her which is untrue as I have been over but she was not in that my older brother has deleted my wife and me as a friend off facebook again. So I have not seen him or had any contact with him most of the year. Now Christmas has come around she is trying to smooth things over because she does not wish anyone to see the rifts which she has created. I could go on and on but having this medium to get this out of my system is a great help.

I chose to estrange myself from my toxic ex-family. Two years ago they found me online and made threats. My husband wrote to them and told them not to contact me unless through a solicitor. Three weeks ago they again found me on line and sent threats. I had to report them to the police. The police have been great and have warned my ex-family from continuing to harass and stalk me. I hope this time is the end.

Bloody hell what is wrong with some people?, Not being satified with blighting someones life they pursue and persecute even when you find the courage to escape.

My first tries to run away from home was when I was 3 years old. I couldnt stand being alone at home with my own mother. She abused both physically and mentally whenever no one strong enough to oppossed her around. I was yelled, punched, pinched hard, slapped and spitted in the face, locked inside the bathroom for hours after she sprayed all of my body wet, locked me inside my room without food, calling me names, accusing me as a thief for things that I dont even understand at my age that time.

She would punished me harder whenever my father failed to gave her the amount of money she would hoped or, or when he did something she didnt like. But only when My dad was not around.

My dad is a surgeon doctor, so we never lack of money. He cut back (my mother's allowence" because no matter how much money he gave her, she would make it "dissapeared" in just matter of days. So he decided to payed all of the bills so the money he gave her is just for her own leisures. I will tell you how i know all this later on.

My mother is a coward monster. She always hides her true form when someone else is around, playing the role as perfect mother in front of others. To make it worst, she constanty made up a story how her children was bad seed.

In my country; society; religion, mother is a God, even thinking bad thing about them is enough to convince people to condemmed you to hell. A perfect place to live for my mother.

I am currently 38, and this is just a teaser of my story.

im very sorry to hear this, i know how it feels, not being able to get away. And the way your mother is, i can relate to that as well as my mother never interacts with me and when she does she only says and does things to put me down. She also snitches and lies to my father about me who also gets violent.
What iv learnt is that these people never change and you'd be saving alot of time energy if u didnt try to make them change