Totally agree. It's very confusing as a child (or an adult for that matter) to understand why on earth I was adopted in the first place. I was told it was my father's decision, but he never got his own way, my mother was totally dominant, so how come they adopted? Maybe it was feelings of inadequacy as she could not have children. I was told she didn't want a girl, that it was my fault he died (I was 15 when he died of a hereditary heart condition) and when was i going to just go away. Then she sold the house and left me to find a flat. No help, financial or otherwise.