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Guilt / Re: Guilt
« Last post by steved on January 19, 2019, 06:51:06 pm »
Lana and Jockess you must understand that it is NOT your fault that your parents are rotten or malicious, and equally know you are not isolated cases there are loads and loads of us who have been hurt and betrayed by the very people who were supposed to nurture and protect us.
My Difficult Parent / Re: Welcome to our forum
« Last post by steved on January 19, 2019, 06:47:18 pm »
WE are family, WE are kindred spirits, WE are shared souls, WE are strong, WE have each other, We are down but NEVER out, We all share much in common, WE will rise above the abuse and neglect. NEVER forget you are NOT ALONE.
My Difficult Parent / Re: Welcome to our forum
« Last post by Crushed flower on December 28, 2018, 10:57:28 pm »
You are not alone,it's awful what these "parents" do to their biological mother wanted to abort me so I was told,she walked out when I was 10 to live with her toyboy,went to live with Gran and uncles who made it clear I wasn't welcome,treated me like Cinderella,young spoilt cousin made my life a misery backed by the "adults", went to live with dad at 14 who gleefully said to me - never have kids they are a weight around your neck.I kept house and went to school,he met a woman and aged 16 was told I am getting married but you can't live with us.found mother 30 years later nothing changed her and the stepdad hated me,she even paid for my sister in law to have laser eye treatment,said she would pay for me too when I booked appt she said sorry can't afford it.anyway not seen them for 6 years and never will.I have painfully hawd to accept that none of them will never like/love/want be honest they don't deserve us.
Guilt / Re: Guilt
« Last post by Lana on December 02, 2018, 08:08:19 pm »
No guilt.  Tried for over 5 decades to "reach her". I was literally drowning in her toxicity and chose to walk away.  And I knew that I would be ostracized by everyone, which is exactly what happened.  Onward and upward. 
My Difficult Parent / Re: Welcome to our forum
« Last post by Lana on December 02, 2018, 07:53:28 pm »
Hello all, really glad to see this forum.  My mother basically abused me for 56 years..and when she couldn't do it physically, she did it verbally with emotional jabs.  It continued until two years ago when I went no contact, and refused to attend a family reunion in which her birthday was going to be honored.  My relatives all disowned me.  Whatever...I am breathing easier being away from them all! 
My Difficult Parent / Re: Overpowering parents
« Last post by steved on November 01, 2018, 07:53:11 am »
My Difficult Parent / Re: Overpowering parents
« Last post by Sooverit on October 25, 2018, 04:13:20 am »
Get away!  What is worse than two evil parents!  You must find your own way. They will never EVER change. Do not stay in hopes they will change. For years I thought or hoped my mother was normal.  Finally I grew up and realized she was a narcissistic little witch that would never change.   You are hurting yourself by being around such negativity. 
Overpowering mothers / Re: Overpowering mothers
« Last post by Sooverit on October 25, 2018, 03:53:02 am »
This does not exactly apply to what you wrote about but I will give some advise. Do not EVER believe she will change. She will never change.  NEVER.  With that in mind, do not tell her anything that she can turn around on you and use it to blast you.  I am 59 and it took me years to not tell her anything other than the weather, etc. Things that are not controversial.  And she STILL finds a way to be critical. It is harder for her which is amusing.  Never talk with her more than 15 minutes. I have a 15 minute rule for sitting down and talking. If I am there for 30 minutes it opens up the likelihood I will really get criticized. The fat word comes out about everyone. That is her favorite topic.
Wedding day / Re: Wedding day
« Last post by Sooverit on October 25, 2018, 03:36:07 am »
I have to put this into words even if no one sees it. I was young ,barely 19,when I got married 40 years ago. With a mother who said “You will never make it in college”, what was I going to do?  My mother REFUSED to attend my wedding. My husband’s family was and still is a wonderful family. They were educated and well to do.  I was not going to let her tell me what to do. It all really made her look crazy and foolish. I am so glad I got away from her. It was a blessing to get out of that house my poor Dad,bless his soul, went along with her and didn’t attend either. She had never seen my beautiful wedding portraits. She was and is a manipulative little witch.
My Difficult Parent / Re: Welcome to our forum
« Last post by Sooverit on October 24, 2018, 05:07:14 am »
I am new to this forum. I am relieved to know there are others like me. I am 59 and the youngest child.  My two older sisters moved away and my brother hates my mother. He lives 4 blocks from her and has not gone to see her in 4 months.  She has no idea why.  Well, we all know why.    So I am stuck with her taking her around every Wednesday.  Where do I begin?  She did not come to my wedding, she said she never wanted to know my unborn child when I moved away for a short time....She told me tonight I am never attached to anything (I told her we were going somewhere in December) and I would be leaving our pets at home with a sitter.  She has been a miserable part of my life. She is not a mother but a horrid friend.  It is a relief to vent a few horrible things she has done. Oh the stories I can tell!
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